Thursday, March 21, 2013

Accurate excerpts from a 30-minute conversation with my child's teacher

And the sad thing is that she's not an ogre, this teacher, but a really kind, well-meaning person.

Me: I hear your frustration about this pile of unfinished worksheets.  Just so that I can understand the situation more clearly, before we open the discussion of therapies and resources that the school district might make available for us, I just want to ask you: Is there specific instructional content that you believe he is missing out on because he works too slowly?  Are there things he is actually not learning?

Her (automatically; no hesitation): Well, what he's missing out on is the practice and application part of the learning. Not so much the new material. He gets all that.  But... when we come to discuss the book at the end of the reading group, he doesn't have as much to say, because he hasn't finished the comprehension worksheet. His written mechanics (things like capital letters, punctuation, spelling) are usually fine, but he could use more practice. And in Creative Writing, he
only finished one story in the time other students wrote three or four.

Me: And creative writing needs to be done on time because...?

Her: Well, when I had everyone decide which of their Creative Writing assignments to "publish" as a book, he really only had one that was complete to choose from, and I thought that made him kind of sad.  And in math, he misses out in math too, because I give them extra challenge problems after the regular problems, and he never gets to them, because I can't just give him the challenge problems before he has completed the regular work.

Me: Because...?

Her: Because that's my philosophy, that you can have more interesting problems but only after you have finished the regular work that everyone has to do.

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Me: (some time later, after floating the "executive function disorder" hypothesis and telling her it can take him 2 hours to do his one-sentence homework assignments, 20 minutes to eat a bowl of cereal or put on his shoes): So if we went through this whole procedure and got a neuropsychological evaluation through the school district or privately through our health insurance and got him diagnosed as needing an Individual Education Plan (IEP) with individualized learning goals, is there any way that could license you to give him the harder math problems first?

Her: No. I had that case in my second grade class once, where the parents wanted to know whether the IEP could set learning goals for their child that were actually harder than the state curriculum. The district told them no. 


Me: So the IEP is only for helping children catch up to the state standards, not for exceeding them?



Her: Right.